Justifying mistakes or blaming others...

When children grow up in an unforgiving environment, the children becomes defensive. They either actively defend by justifying their mistakes or blame someone else.

As adults, the only way we can learn to self-correct our behavior is by taking responsibility for our mistakes. As long as we justify our mistakes by blaming someone else, we cannot self-correct. Although we are adults, we behave like children who have been raised in an unsafe environment.