Thursday, January 26, 2012

Justifying mistakes or blaming others...

When children grow up in an unforgiving environment, the children becomes defensive. They either actively defend by justifying their mistakes or blame someone else.

As adults, the only way we can learn to self-correct our behavior is by taking responsibility for our mistakes. As long as we justify our mistakes by blaming someone else, we cannot self-correct. Although we are adults, we behave like children who have been raised in an unsafe environment.

Keeping up with my children...

 It takes patience to appreciate domestic bliss; volatile spirits prefer unhappiness. (GS)

As a mother I cannot ask for more because I can tell the whole world that on that aspect of my life at least I say I am truly and favorably happy...honestly mine isn't perfect of course, though it appears that we are in accord...and we jibe, there are times we have our own share of some discord. But becoz I want us to breathe the same rhyme, as a mother I have to be always in check with the agreement at home sharing  their passion, their fad, their craze enthusiastically so as to strike a good tune. If they love this kind of music I do try to involve myself more, if not I just try to be appreciative at first and in time I'd wake up humming it and then liking the song in the end. Being flexible and open to any kind of new beat is helpful and important. Like my youngest son who's into music, always try to get my opinion about something he likes most..."ma, pakinggan mo toh (just listen to this mom), I hope you'll like this one by Satriani"...and I'd ang ganda gusto ko yan (wow, nice and I like it). Then I'd ask him to play my favorite song. Then after a few days he'd be playing na the song I like most like last night I requested Hot Stuff by Donna Summer, ayun he played it na for me dexterously with gusto. And in return naman I listen with raft attention everytime he's playing his electric guitar. With that simple ways, we became closer than ever.

Sometimes we do have issues also but we don't make a big deal out of it and please...I hate lachrymal showdown they know that, feel like passing out when I hear verbal vollies, I hate that. I am not getting any younger so I want to make useful of the time in a positive tune and not to fret on small issues like if one doesn't seem like doing chores...I don't make it a fuss but instead I'd go...okey you can rest for awhile maybe you're too exhausted for the day in school. Just like that. I hate stifling arguments at home as much as how de-do situation. It just suffocates everything. And I hate that inside my fence. I want to enjoy and keep up with them and spunk up like they do. If I don't like something I'd tell them straight and go inside my room to avoid sizzling...and before I knew it the tension is gone.

For me now, why borrow trouble! Just do enjoy life, be productive and always be a blessing in your own home!

Monday, January 23, 2012

Trust is never without respect!

In my own point of view, trusting one person is really very hard, specially for those who are just starting to forge a friendship or a relationship. Trust should always go hand in hand with respect. Either of the two comes first and one will surely follow. Then love is not too far away. Love in any different level...whether it maybe love to the parents, parents to a boyfriend or girlfriend. Or even to friends. In any different level of love. There should always be trust, respect and everything will follow.

If don't have to expect anything!

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Taking heed...

We parents can only do the best we can, and let the chips fall where they may, if only to give them the best lesson to learn and just always hoping not the hard way as the old cliche goes. We would always tell them "been there done that" while the children stays complacent until such undesirable situation sets in dot dot dot. If only children will learn to take heed of their parents advices not much will go wrong.

me and aya 2011 Japan
The video of a young Pinoy female talent whose career is just on the full swing has pushed me to write this. Saw or watched her in her intimate moments with the guy actually a DJ who had fled the country after the hullabaloo blown everything out of proportion and then the abortion squeal and blah blah blah. The young lass' pours her heart out and her disappointment after the videos about the termination leaked via you tube, now comes the videos showing her in uncompromising moments were she kisses the guy so much on the lips while she's sitting on top of him...oops, not what you think, but they aren't naked huh...that's clear. Now comes the video interview of her regretting what she has done in her life ad the best part of it is her admission that she didn't follow her parents advices but instead did follow her heart whims. I wonder I didn't hear any denial about the termination but whichever is she knows well and am sure she'll mark it for as long as she lives.

Monday, January 2, 2012

I'm so blest!

me with my grown ups <3

LORD T H A N K YOU for giving me soooo much...all the good things that happened to me in the past hadn't been weighed down by some negative things I had met head on. Thank you for giving me strength and courage so enough for me to carry on. Still I won't trade my faith, my positivism and true incorrigible optimism that shield me and my person forever against all odds. AMEN.